For someone diagnosed with cancer, it can have a massive effect not just physically, but emotionally, Dealing with the disease is something that no one should go through alone. So how do you help make sure that a person feels at ease and not isolated when they’re fighting cancer? Take a look at some of these tips for what to do with someone you know has cancer.
Don’t Think Like a Carer
The worst thing you can do is think of your relative/friend as anything other what they already are. They would hate to be seen as a patient in your eyes. Make sure you don’t find yourself constantly asking questions like ‘are you ok/Do you need x,y or z/ Are you comfortable?’ If your friend has a problem let them tell you, rather than trying to force it out.
The easiest way to be supportive is to let a person just talk. Act like a sponge for everything they say. You’ll be able to find out more about someone simply by listening to what they say. Cancer is something that a person can be forthcoming about; always remember that.
Day to Day
Carrying out chores around the house can be a pain, but it isn’t as bad a pain at what someone with cancer is fighting. Lend a hand in this fashion by doing the simple things like keeping a room tidy, washing a few dishes or just getting groceries to keep the fridge stocked up. The little things are much more important than gestures like bringing flowers or chocolates.
The best way of keeping a friend in good spirits is by acting as their liaison between the clinic and home. Imagine the scenario of someone visiting a clinic by bus or taxi. Now imagine the scenario of your driving them there while having them sing along far too loud to their favourite songs. This little difference can have an absolutely massive effect on their wellbeing pre and post treatment.
Have a Plan
Visiting a friend who is sick is one thing, but keeping them entertained is another. Don’t just show up and expect to chat. Maybe they’re feeling very sick after treatment and just need someone to sit with. Whether it’s deciding to do some baking the kitchen or arrive with a few movies to watch, keep options open.
Of course it is paramount that you understand the limitations of someone’s disease and work according to that logic. Caring for cancer patients takes more than just a visit to a clinic.